February is the month of love, the kind we celebrate loudly and the kind we hold quietly. But love inside the adult industry rarely fits into tidy boxes. It exists alongside stigma, disclosure, vulnerability, power, politics, and radical honesty. So we asked 11 creators to reflect on their preferred relationship styles, what dating looks like in their world, and how their work shapes, and is shaped by, the way they connect with others.

From navigating fetishization and misunderstanding to building supportive partnerships rooted in trust, these responses are candid, layered, and deeply human. Whether you’re curious about dating as a sex worker, figuring out how to disclose your work to a partner, or simply interested in how intimacy intersects with labor, this collection offers perspectives that are thoughtful, vulnerable, and refreshingly real.

This edition features insights from:

Trinity Infinity‍

Sunny Bunnie‍

Chantel Chanel‍

The Commandant‍

Valentine Vonbettie‍

Angel‍

Lil Moore‍

Bowie‍

Allie Sparks‍

Kylie Kisser‍

Lily Lay

Special thanks to Honey Live for collaborating on this special project with us!

Trinity

‍There is freedom in having a woman take control of everything and make every decision in  the relationship, but it's up to you as a sub to willingly hand over control.‍

Sunny

To have a man treat you like a queen, love you, cater to you, be there for you, be gentle, kind, respectful, never yells at you, communicate, give you space no matter how you feel‍

Chantel

Be true to yourself. The right person will find you at the right time and you will feel seen.

The Commandant

‍Everything takes time, no one does polyamory/non-monogamy the same way. Whatever works for you, and your partners that keeps y’all safe and happy is more than enough. Jealousy isn’t something to ignore - sit with it & hold space for conversation to work through insecurities.

‍Valentine

‍It takes confidence, selflessness and vulnerability to practice an open/poly relationship; you can’t take things too seriously. Security can feel boring and that’s okay! It’s nice having people around who understand themselves, what they’re looking for, and what they are/aren’t available for. Try and understand your needs & wants before entering this relationship dynamic.

Angel

‍Honestly - just be true to yourself, don’t jump in any relationships, it’ll come to you.

Lil Moore

‍You have to be honest with yourself before you can be honest with anyone else. If you’re unsure of your standing, needs, & non-negotiables, you’re going to feel unbalanced and that will affect how you navigate partnerships. Being brave enough to talk to yourself will make you bold enough to express yourself to others, and also sure enough to weather disappointment, loss or confusion. 

Bowie

‍DON'T GET SUCKED INTO A CULTY POLY SCENE.

Allie

‍Communicate, communicate, communicate! The most important part of a relationship is having clear expectations, which requires having a lot of honest conversations, especially if they don’t feel easy. It may feel challenging at first, but like any other skill, the more you practice, the easier it gets.

Kylie

‍Communication is everything. You have to be open and honest with yourself and your partner(s) about your feelings, especially if they are unpleasant feelings

Lily

‍Find out what turns YOU on! Communicate that to your partner(s) explicitly, no matter how awkward it feels. Recognize red flags. Look for "green flags", too: what you seek in a partner, how you want to be treated. If they aren't receptive to your desires, leave. If they do not treat you with the respect you deserve, leave. If they do not align with your morals and values, leave. Remember your worth and DO NOT SETTLE!

Trinity

‍Easier! I live by the motto "Can't tell me what to do", in both my professional and personal life. Anyone who wants to date me would have to be okay with my mindset and approach to life.”

Sunny

‍It makes it hard! Men get jealous and mad… even though I’m open and honest, men still have an attitude. This is why I know I need to just get money from them and keep my distance.

Chantel

‍When I became a SW I was only interested in non monogamous relationships. It made being in the industry feel easier. I didn’t have to be dishonest about who or what I was doing. Now I’m in a monogamous relationship and I feel like I can’t work or move the way I want. It’s honestly a little annoying. I can’t really be myself.

‍The Commandant

‍It feels easier due to the ability to communicate boundaries amongst partners, and performer peers. There’s more compartmentalization and understanding.

Valentine

‍Yes, I have found having some level of openness takes the weight off of a relationship knowing that is part of the arrangement. It’s still met with communication, compassion and curiosity - but there is no real worry it is interfering in the primary relationship(s) as it’s fully disclosed.

Angel

‍It just feels different honestly. It’s hard to find partners who support us.

Lil Moore‍

It makes it different. There’s so many prerequisite conversations required that center around the industry and my various roles within it. My work and growth are a top priority that I aim to balance equally with connection, romance and love. I always make that clear.

Bowie

‍There are benefits and drawbacks to any relationship where one or both partners work in the industry. While I've been a SW, I've always been in poly relationships. I find that the community tends to be more accepting of SWers. Values like “compersion” help frame SW in a way that can help civilian partners understand the separation between work and relationships.

Kylie

‍My relationship style makes working in the adult industry feel easier. My heart is already open to connecting with many people as opposed to being monogamous.

‍Lily

‍Different! Some aspects of my relationships are easier due to my career, like setting boundaries and knowing my worth -- some are more difficult due to stigma.

Trinity

‍It’s made me more selective of who I give my energy to. If you're not contributing to my life in a meaningful way that makes it easier, or makes me happy, what use do I have for that?

Chantel

‍Omg yes!! In the beginning I would walk the thin line of non monogamy and celibacy. I would become celibate when I felt like I couldn’t hold space for others because work was exhausting.

The Commandant

‍It did! The open communication encouraged in ethical non monogamy helps fuel Me to be a more communicative performer especially being a professional Dominant.

Valentine

‍I realized early on in life that monogamy didn’t feel quite right. I wanted the freedom to explore with the mutual security of an anchored relationship. I’ve had many long term non-monogamous relationships and a brief stint in polyamory for a couple of years. Ultimately, I found that being upfront about my lifestyle and work makes filtering people much easier. I like having a variety of dynamics and generally so do my lovers / partners.

Angel

‍No! I’ve always been monogamous.

‍Lil Moore

‍My experiences have solidified my preferences. I see so many relationship styles in peers and fans. I’ve learned so much about how others function (or not) in their relationships, I have the chance to go “YES, this is for me,” or “NO, that’s definitely NOT for me.”

Bowie

‍Not so much influenced, as reinforced each other. For example, jealousy about my work has not been an issue with my civilian partners. It's also important to me to explore connections that may include intimacy with no sex, and vice-versa.

Allie

‍I knew I was poly very early on, before I ever considered this line of work. I would say SW hasn’t impacted my choice in relationship style, but it’s reinforced my decision to continue polyamorous dating. It affords me and my loved ones a lot of freedom and agency. It makes working in the adult industry feel very freeing and fun. I get to work with my friends and partners, and we get to film whatever makes us feel good!

Kylie

‍I was polyamorous long before I got into the industry, and was actually in a monogamous relationship when I started camming!

Lily

‍YES. I was celibate for 2 years, and now I only engage romantically if they meet my (now) very high standards. I don't waste my time anymore on people who don't match up with my values.

Trinity

‍It hasn't changed much. People are people and being a sex worker doesn't change that. There are healthy and unhealthy relationships in every walk of life. I will say I’ve been pleasantly surprised at how many couples you meet in this industry, despite the world trying to paint us as unlovable, undesirable whores.

Sunny

Yes, it did. It made me care about myself more. I am more than what men think of me! It has been bad. I expect more now. I don’t want to date anyone who’s not gonna understand what I do and support me. I love what I do! Be here or go. ‍

Chantel

‍The industry caused me at times to be selfish with myself and my time. And I love that for me. We give so much to others.. This shit is exhausting! 

‍The Commandant

‍It has opened My eyes to the various lifestyles we live and the various ways we can love people. Not everyone is polyamorous like me. In fact, many are monogamous and partnered. The separation is easy when you remember that when we’re at work, it’s work.

‍Valentine

‍I almost exclusively only date other SWers now. I’ve had wonderful non sex working partners too, albeit a bit messy at times. Currently life is easy breezy sticking to my own rules without much stress. It makes sense for me & my lifestyle. It would be silly for someone to ask me to stop doing what I genuinely enjoy and have been doing for over a decade. Or even feel insecure about it. I simply don’t have the time or energy for that.

Angel

‍Finding someone who is supporting of SW is very difficult, it’s taught me not to jump into the first guy who likes me because it is a lot deeper than that now.

Lil Moore

‍It’s helped me understand that more often than not people are NOT communicating, and it’s really up to the individual to keep lines to honest discussion open. People are not mind readers — unless you’ve told them something a million times already, then they just don’t like you (enough, or at all).‍

Bowie

‍Honestly? I put up with a lot less from cis white men now. I have cis white men willing to pay me for my time and attention, why should I give that to them? That's where my politics and personal life intertwine.

Allie

‍Being a SWer has expanded my empathy for others. The experiences I’ve had - having heart to heart conversations with fans, partners, and costars - has shown me that life and relationships are messy! The more understanding we can extend to one another, the better off we’ll be. I’ve been privileged enough to be trusted with people’s most vulnerable moments. Having that perspective as a SWer, I truly believe more self-compassion and empathy would solve so many relationship challenges.

‍Kylie

‍Being a sex worker has made me a more open and accepting partner

‍Lily

‍This job made me realize I was giving more than I was getting in my past relationships. I used to let so many things slide. Eventually I’d see that I didn’t have to be with someone who didn’t care about me as much as I cared about them. I’m much quicker to dump somebody who doesn’t fit my standards now. I’d rather be “alone” than with someone who makes me feel alone.

Trinity

‍I've definitely used some of my freaky sexcapades from my dating life as inspiration for sexting and phone calls with some of my fans.

‍Chantel

‍Sexual energy is creative energy for me and being in a monogamous relationship has slowed me down creatively. But it could also be that we have been together for a while.

‍The Commandant

‍Absolutely. I am queer (as are all of My partners) so moving in a safe way with the current climate has been a priority. Creatively, My submissives/partners are 100% My muses. They fuel My creative goblin sadist energy! 

‍Valentine

‍Having a lover, partner or even trusted flirty friend who aligns with my work makes creation fun! It has a container. Someone can be a muse. Or we create through mutual experience, but still have space for genuine connection. Lately, It’s inspiring (and hot) seeing my lovers get fired up for political movements and SWer rights. To know they see the ridiculous policies placed upon us. Even more so when my partners are also SWers and we get to share healthy venting about the state of things.

‍Angel

‍I had one partner who showed me the side of X for SW and it piqued my interest. After it ended, I decided to join myself!

‍Lil Moore

‍I’ve been inspired to maintain the image and energy of being a real person. Yes, we sell fantasy. By allowing the mundane & everyday to slip into conversations or content, I foster a sense of safety that supports what I believe in : communication, honesty, normalcy. We are a fringe profession but that doesn’t make us a fringe people.

Bowie

‍For sure! Creatively, I've had partners who have taught me transferable skills like flogging and impact play in general that I've taken to work.

‍Allie

‍My partners know that I’m a free spirit. Dating SWers has been a blessing in that we get to bounce ideas off one another creatively and inspire one another’s projects.‍

Kylie

‍I have absolutely been inspired creatively by experiences in romantic relationships. A lot of role play experiences I have in real life inspire my clips!

‍Lily

I went celibate in 2023 to take a break from the stress relationships were causing me and realized how much femdom spoke to me. I learned to focus on what I love most– strength through domination. I’ve always enjoyed being a domme, but now I know that’s who I REALLY am. I still consider myself a switch, but I never submit if they don’t deserve it! I started being sexual with others again last year, but very selectively. It’s influenced my fetish work and opened my eyes to how much power I truly hold. It’s boosted my confidence so much that my videos &  performances are hotter than ever! Politically – I’ve never dated a conservative and never will. Someone who doesn’t understand or care about the fascist turn this country is taking is not someone I want to spend time with.

Trinity

‍I know it's not popular, but I've had good luck with apps/online dating, but you have to *really* put in the effort and be okay with kissing a lot of frogs to find your Prince or Princess.

‍Chantel

‍I met my current partner at an event that I was bartending at. I like meeting people in person that way I can get a feel for them and see if there’s chemistry. I meet new people out doing regular life things. 

‍The Commandant

‍My primary partner & I met at a local goth club named The Church in Dallas, danced once to Ministry, and have been inseparable. I like to meet new people at concerts or work conferences! I’m usually the person with little trinkets in their pocket to make them smile! I’ve made a lot of friends that way. I like to help people so making folks smile comes in tandem with that.

‍Valentine

‍I met my current partner at a strip club. We were both dancing for an event and they slid into my DM’s asking for a casual hangout. We quickly realized it would not be platonic. We’ve been together for 2.5 years. The best places I’ve met dates are in the wild, through acquaintances, or through the industry. Social media has been my favorite dating platform outside of real life encounters. 

‍Lil Moore

‍I’ve been a digital spirit as long as I can remember. I grew up isolated, using the internet to find connection and belonging. I end up meeting people online or through “a friend of a friend”, with a “digital pen pal” stage. I love that there’s no pressure to perform and you can take your time getting to know someone. This influenced my work in a beautiful way because my connections with fans, subscribers, followers are genuine. I don’t know how to behave online any other way!

‍Allie

‍I met my partner Shakespeare at a BBW strip night. I was a stripper, and he was a bouncer. I stripped to three songs and gave him two lap dances (and rolled my ankle in the process). I really put myself out there that night! Typically I’m an introvert and prefer curling up at home with a book.

‍Kylie

‍I met my partner through mutual friends! As a social butterfly, I like to meet new people through shared interests and friends! I always know my friends have good taste in company, and it’s easy to make friends when a shared interest is involved like taking a class or going on a retreat

‍Lily

‍I don't have a "partner" in the traditional sense. I met my favorite person on Tumblr back before they banned porn. We actually had sex first, and THEN became close friends. I do things backwards sometimes. He’s the person I’ve known the longest and been most intimate with (physically and emotionally). We just say we’re “lovers,” which is very romantic to me. I’m intimate with other people, but not the same way. My newer romances usually pass, but he’s my constant. We even give each other relationship advice! I love him very much and am so lucky to know him.

Trinity

‍Physically, I like big dicks and hot people *blush* Emotionally, I need a partner who will actively support and participate in what I do, not just tolerate it. I love someone I can be goofy and playful with, they have to love animals, and being a cinephile is a huge plus.

‍Chantel

‍I love a great smile. Being able to hold a conversation, witty and a sense of humor is a plus. Those are just a couple things that may get you my number. In a relationship, I look for emotional maturity, honesty, respectful and goal oriented.

‍The Commandant

‍Honesty, compassion, and drive for more in themselves outside of the world we surround ourselves in. He has since day 1 been nothing but straightforward and no BS with Me, and I deeply value that in someone.

‍Valentine

‍I love genuine people who’ve done the work to know more about themselves. They walk through the world with kindness but have a realistic edge of nihilism. Feral and handsy. A nice ass always delights me! Being a compatible kisser. I can tell who I’m going to have a crush on just by kissing them. My current partner is a smart, snarky, caring, talented and gentle soul who enjoys touching me a lot. It can be as simple as that!

‍Angel

‍I love charisma/outgoing personalities. I like others who are fun and know how to joke, but am mainly a homebody

‍Lil Moore

‍A sense of humour!!!! I have such a dark humour because of my life experiences and if we can’t laugh over the wtf we will never make it. I also look for over communication (tell me everything, no you aren’t annoying me), an ability to handle crisis with a calm demeanor, and a storied life that has experienced many walks and has fostered compassion for others.

‍Bowie

‍If they have goals and work towards something that's larger than themselves; community service is really attractive to me. Intellectual compatibility is another one. It's not about intelligence - can we understand each other and vibe with respect to communication?  

‍Allie

‍I value authenticity. Someone who is unabashedly themselves and not afraid of who knows it. Someone who is passionate about their life and not afraid to be a main character.

‍Kylie

‍I look for a partner who is honest and open. Someone who isn’t afraid to try new things and experiences.

‍Lily

‍The most important aspect of a relationship is mutual respect. I need to feel safe. Someone who devotes themselves to me, cares about my wants and needs, worships the ground I walk on and the air I breathe. Looks are less important than personality. I love someone who makes me laugh, who I feel effortlessly comfortable with. When the date is over and I feel that high, that’s when I know it’s something real.

Trinity

‍It's been pretty easy. I'm used to putting myself out there and sliding into people's DMs, and there certainly isn't any shortage of suitors lining up in mine. ;)

‍Sunny

‍I became more mean. I have a strict program! I’m single but I don’t wanna meet anyone else.

‍Chantel

‍People are either intrigued and judgmental, or intrigued and think you’re a sex addict.

‍The Commandant

‍I have to be careful that someone isn’t coming into My life to ride My coat tails from the success I have generated so far.

‍Valentine

‍It’s great! I enjoy getting to know people from all walks of life. Depending on who it is I will sometimes choose not to give my occupation (mostly for safety) otherwise I talk about it openly and answer questions that don’t feel too laborious.

‍Angel

‍A lot of contenders usually want me to quit SW, as it’s generally frowned upon.

‍Lil Moore

‍I’m an Aquarius so I’m always getting into deep meaningful conversations with others. This attracts all kinds of people into my sphere so it becomes up to me to use discernment and critical thinking when deciding how much of myself to give.

‍Bowie

‍The communities I'm a part of are largely comprised of SWs and allies, so I'm most comfortable looking for potential partners in those spaces, as opposed to the apps.

‍Allie

‍Dating as a SWer feels the same as dating as anyone else. Disclosing my profession is an easy way to weed out people who are meant for me, but I find that most people find it really interesting!

‍Kylie

‍Sometimes it’s hard to meet new people because not everyone is comfortable with my work. That makes the ones who accept me for who I am all the more special!

‍Lily

‍I like to tell prospective lovers what I do almost right away! I don’t need to waste time with someone who isn’t interested in/capable of dating a SWer. There are 3 types: the ones who are REALLY into your job and brag about dating SWers in the past; the ones who dislike your job, belittle you and want you to quit; and the ones who respect your work but don’t fetishize you for it. I only entertain the ones who are normal about my job, otherwise – kick ‘em to the curb.

Trinity

‍Absolutely. It's very easy for someone to get infatuated with my content and forget that there's a real person under all the lingerie and latex.

‍Sunny

‍Duhhhhh, men are the worst! They’re not the best. I hate dating men.

‍Chantel

Yes, very often. I went through a phase of leading with that information like “Hey! I’m a SW” - that way I can figure out if I’m wasting my time.

‍The Commandant

‍Absolutely! People assume because I’m a lifestyle Dominatrix that I’m constantly in leather and 7 inch heels. That or they expect free sessions/labor in exchange for dates.

‍Valentine

‍100% - I’ve been used as a stepping stone many times in dating. Whether it’s to gain access to who or what I know. Passed over in polyamorous dynamics for other partners, shamed for my work as a sex worker…truly a laundry list of things.

‍Angel

‍All of the above. It’s hard to find someone who truly understands what you do and why, even just friends.

‍Lil Moore

‍People with the wrong mindset approach us, believe our job is 100% who we are and let that shape their choices. It’s obvious to me when someone sees me as an object or tool of their own satisfaction and I disengage when I feel that energy. This has definitely led to people I thought I had great friendships/discussions with going ghost, but I’d prefer that.

‍Allie

‍I have felt fetishized while dating, and those relationships crumbled fast! Thank goodness that they did, because they made room for relationships where people see me for my nerdy, goofy self.

‍Kylie

‍I’ve definitely felt fetishized while dating because of my work. Being clear about my boundaries and talking through those feelings with my partners made all the difference.

‍Lily

‍Definitely misunderstood – unless you are a sex worker, you don’t get it. Which I can even say about forms of SW I haven’t tried, I’ll never know how it works. There are many different ways people brand themselves, different services they offer, there’s no one–size-fits-all Cam Girl ™. That can be difficult to articulate to dates in a way they understand. Sometimes I feel I’m not “allowed” to complain about work, talk about good clients and fun times I have, or how much I make because there are so many assumptions to be made. I think we’ve all been fetishized to some degree by partners. I’ve broken up with guys who pulled out, “WELL AT LEAST I DON’T SELL MY PUSSY!” at the end and it’s like. Oh. Bullet dodged!

Trinity

‍I disclose right away. I don't want to waste anyone's time and I don't want them wasting mine. If you're not okay with my job, my work, my PASSION, you're not okay with me. You're not a match for me and that's okay. Not everyone is meant to be together.  Whether you do so online, in person, how much you disclose etc is up to you to determine on a case by case basis.

‍Sunny

‍I don’t think sex workers should - it’s dangerous. It’s hard because we need to be safe. But I wouldn’t. I always tell them “think smart, and love later”

‍Chantel

‍Honestly, I’m still trying to figure out the formula. But I will say don’t lead with the information. I’ve been in situations where as soon as I share what I do, respect goes out the window and it turns into an all-about-sex conversation.

‍The Commandant

‍Do NOT date fans. I know it’s endearing and sweet at first but don’t do it. They put you on a pedestal and no matter what you do; they won’t remove you from it. Ask “How do you feel about the porn industry?”, “When was the last time you’ve been tested?”, “What do you think about OF creators?” Their answers are important.

‍Valentine‍

Do it right from the beginning. Lay everything out! There’s no reason you should have to convince someone to accept all of who you are. The more transparent you are, the more discerning you can be about who you give your time to. And who shows up for you. Ask how they feel about the industry or if they’ve ever known anyone who’s a SWer. Ask how they navigated relationships and pay attention to how they talk about their exes.

Angel

‍I generally only disclose to people I’ve known irl for a while. Most of my dating contenders are old friends from the past who I feel comfortable enough with to disclose.

Lil Moore

‍Take a conversational approach. Bringing up things like SW and adult content in casual conversation can help you assess someone’s mindset without letting them on to your own work. I’ve found this keeps me safe and gets honest perspectives from people. There’s no chance for them to answer based on what they want from you and you can gauge their respect for our profession without barriers!

‍Bowie

‍In the best of all worlds you’d be able to disclose early and honestly. Especially if you consider being a SW as a core political identity. I believe a successful relationship is built on transparency and clear communication. If you don't feel safe disclosing, listen to your gut. I'd like to say get out of that relationship, but that's not always an option for someone.

‍Allie

‍Be upfront! Put it in your bio, if you’re able to. If someone is right for you, they will support you. If they’re wrong, they’ll go their own way, or you’ll find out in the first few messages that they will fetishize you and that they’re just a thirsty dog.

‍Kylie

‍It’s important to have a good understanding of your partner’s home life & upbringing. Pay attention to the way they speak about other women in their life and on social media. Always trust your gut instinct

‍Lily

‍I tell them as soon as I feel is safe to do so – after asking questions about politics, gender, etc. I think what is “safe” is different to everyone.

Trinity

‍Yes. My first serious boyfriend and I dated on and off because we had multiple problems regarding my sexual experience and desire to do SW. He was never okay with it. I felt I was denying a part of myself by trying to have a "normal job". When the relationship finally ended, I vowed to never date another person who wasn't okay with SW because it caused so many problems.

‍Sunny

‍Yes I have. Men get jealous because I am better and more successful than they are.

‍Chantel

‍No. In my current relationship we are trying to find a common ground because we both feel like it is worth it.

‍The Commandant

‍Oh absolutely. I’ve had people realize they don’t want to share Me, I’ve had others try to utilize My position in kink to “get a leg up” faster.

‍Valentine

‍Yes, it becomes tedious to navigate others’ expectations when you’ve been doing something for a long time. There was no coming to an understanding in those dynamics so they had to end. There have also been times I have been too busy to date for sure!

‍Angel

‍I’ve taken a “hiatus” (i quit SW) for a few months for a relationship, I realized it wasn’t good for me to put my own career on hold for someone who can’t accept me as is.

‍Bowie

‍Nope! My partners have all either been SWs themselves, or have previously dated/were dating SWs.

‍Allie

‍I’ve ended relationships because partners have wanted to control my other relationships or my work. If someone is controlling, they have no place in my life. The people I surround myself with are supportive of my dreams, goals and other relationships!

‍Kylie

‍No! I’ve been so blessed to have partners who are supportive of my career.

Trinity

‍Be our cheerleaders, our biggest fans, and our rock! We need someone(s) who understands this job requires thick skin, can be chaotic and stressful AF, and comes with judgement and stigma attached. I want an active partner - someone to film content with me, attend events with me and stand by my side (and beneath me ;)) while I build an empire.

‍Sunny

‍Be there. Support us financially or emotionally. Speak out, support others’ content

‍Chantel

‍We are not trying to be saved. We want to be loved completely and freely. Please leave the judgement at the door!! And if you aren’t able to communicate when you feel insecure and work with me through it.. please leave us alone!

‍The Commandant

‍Vote against ridiculous legislation trying to make adult content illegal. Actually listen. Remember we are selling a fantasy, meaning the person you see online vs the person you get in person are not always the exact same.

‍Valentine

‍Work on your insecurities. They’re really cock blocking (gender neutral) and excluding you from connecting with highly motivated, intelligent people who just happen to take their clothes off. We’re coming home to you, everything should be background noise and mutual enjoyment of the hard work paying off.

‍Angel‍

Be supportive, don’t dis a partner for what they do, and don’t give them ultimatums that would affect their life negatively.

Lil Moore

Ask questions more than you supply opinions. Strive to learn from us and also on your own. Bear an equal measure of emotional labour. And be honest about if you have the capacity to be the person — the friend — that we need. Everything starts there.

‍Bowie

‍Educate yourself on how the current political climate affects SWs-- particularly look up FOSTA/SESTA. It'll help with developing compassion and empathy in the relationship.

‍Allie

‍Don’t be afraid to show the world that dating a sex worker is normal. Be proud of your relationship. If your partner is open to disclosing, that is.

‍Kylie

‍Be intentional about time spent together, and don’t always expect the “performance level” intimacy you may see reflected in your partners content

‍Lily

‍If you can’t handle a hot girl, don’t date a hot girl. Know your limits.